Hello, and welcome to Hitchhiker's Guide to Humanity. Today, we're talking about shame, the masks we wear, and generational curses. You know, the light stuff. So when you've spent your whole life in survival mode, having dreams come true is a double-edged sword. You're excited, but you're also terrified it'll be taken away. I think that's why you see people who get famous or rich quickly, they burn out so soon. To be seen is Is different than being known, right? Known is being famous. It's a performance. But being seen, that's when someone sees the real you. That's when someone sees what you have inside, not just the mask you're wearing. And I think their mask is what people see. And when you're judged based on that mask and it's Positive, like, positive validation. If you don't like what is under that mask, it is a long life. Because when people start to see the real you, if you don't like who you are, it becomes very uncomfortable. Which is why everyone says you have to love yourself first before you can love anyone else. It's not just hyperbole. It's the truth. 

There's... There's something beautiful about being seen but there's also something really terrifying about it because we've been taught that what was beneath us What was beneath those masks was something to be shameful of or feel guilty about. But it was never supposed to be like that. No one is born in shame. You're born with wounds. You're born with, say, tendencies. Even blood related, right? But if you have the right support system, if you have people around you that support your authentic self, And never make you feel shameful or guilty. If you grow up in a household that's not full of secrets and lies and stuff, You beat it. You beat those wounds automatically, right? The reason, I believe, everything festers is because of the secrets, because of the words left unsaid. When you don't get to say how you feel, It's because you can't be seen. You're only known at that point. And known is a mask. Because what's unsaid is a secret that causes shame. And 

I'm not talking about being private or Being a private person, that's completely different. But when you withhold dialogue out of avoiding conflict and let it fester, you create shame. Not just in you, but also the other person. And you end up both projecting that perception on each other but also everyone around you. Especially the ones who activate that wound again. They'll get the worst of it. And it goes on and on. All because of that one conversation with one person that they were afraid to have. If we all communicated with authenticity, I mean, it wouldn't be like that movie The Invention of Lying because we have discernment and, you know, integrity to fall back on. But there really wouldn't be as much shame. Not really. Not in the sense that it's caused this chaotic society we're living in. The shitty people that have sprouted up as pseudo-dictators and all of their followers. When you don't allow people to be themselves from like an early age, this manifests into generational trauma that is passed down through epigenetics and energy. These dictators, quote unquote, had parents who had parents who had parents who had parents. And not one of them thought, hmm, maybe this isn't the way we should parent our children. That maybe sweeping things under the rug and indulging every ask isn't the right thing to do. Maybe I should talk to my child about these things that they could encounter. 

Look, dictators aren't born dictators. They're babies, too. They say don't blame the parents, but that's what you have to do. Sorry, parents. I know it's not what you want to hear. But parents have to take accountability for generational trauma that is passed down. And I'm not trying to place all the blame on the parents or the grandparents. This isn't about blame. It's about accountability. The child has accountability too, but they have to learn what it means first. And if you keep secrets and you sweep hard conversations under the rug, You create shame. And until that child grows up and faces those fears that are in their blood or their soul or their energy, it will get passed down. Luckily, the group alive today, yes, millennials, yes, Gen X, and I would also say maybe the early boomers, like the ones they're calling Generation Jones. I'm talking to you. You're the curse breakers. Multiple human generations will be helped, but also your soul family will be helped as you transmute your energy. Congrats! You got the Willy Wonka golden ticket! Yay! Sorry, it's so hard and painful. 

Parents, you will be uncomfortable with this change in the way we talk about ourselves. There's no getting around it. I know you can't always help when you have children. They just come. And you're like, there's no manual. And there's not, but you know, there's something inside you that says your intuition will tell you what's wrong and what's right and everything else will be forgiven, right? My therapist said one time, and this is so profound to me, it is not the harmful act that causes the trauma, it's the response afterwards. I'll give you a moment on that one because that changes a lot. That perspective changes It really helped me personally kind of look at it in a different way. So were you supported? Were you talked to or was whatever it is that happened covered up like a dirty little secret because they didn't want to talk about it because they felt shame. They felt responsibility in some way. 

When I grew up, and many of you listening, I'm sure, you didn't talk about your feelings. We kept them tight inside a little-ass box, and it probably has recently started to come undone. This next part could cause some emotions. So I'm going to add a content warning, disclaimer, I'm not a licensed therapist or doctor. Please use your discernment. I am an energetic healer and we're going to go a little deep into the chasms of shame. There's talk of sexual abuse, physical abuse, um, unaliving yourself, but I will bring you back out of that cave, okay? If you're not ready, skip to the next chapter or end it here. I completely understand. I'll give you a moment. Okay, so let's say something happened to you. Maybe you were sexually abused by a relative, physically abused by a parent, or you self-harmed. Fill in the blanks. And let's say your parent or guardian, if they're not at fault, maybe a teacher or counselor sits you down and asks you, What's wrong? I could tell something's wrong. Do you want to talk about it? I could feel us all cringing because we're like, that sounds terrible. I don't want you to talk to me about this. I feel you. I hate this shit too. I really do. But let's say they did it with grace and they're gentle. Maybe they even make a joke. To get you to laugh. And they make you, most importantly, feel loved and safe. So you end up telling them what happened to you. Because it's been affecting your life and you're a little kid. And you've been wearing a mask of shame, smiling on the outside, dying a little on the inside, and you didn't even know it. That mask is siphoning off your energy and replacing it. With a little negative voice in your head that says you're not good enough. You suck. You should hurt yourself because you don't deserve to be here. And this wonderful adult says back to you, I believe you that this happened. First, let's take a moment to acknowledge that this person believed you and didn't make up excuses for someone else. That alone is monumental because I don't know about you, but there are a lot of people who tried to speak up and they weren't believed, okay? Or even worse. Someone doubled down. So let's say they took it a step further, this adult. I'm so sorry this happened to you. You didn't deserve that. What can I do to help? Or something of the sort. Basically, you're listened to, acknowledged, they empathized with you, and they asked what they can do to help. Seems small and insignificant when you think about it in the scheme of things, but it's massive as far as trauma goes. And maybe you say back to them, I don't know. But I feel better. Maybe you're confused as to why you feel better. But for a moment... That burden that you've been carrying is out in the open. Someone else knows. You may be thinking, they believe me. That energy that comes from that conversation is so fucking powerful. Even if it's just one person who believes you. So this child in that moment, they understand that they have agency in their life. That if they speak up about the shitty things that happen to them, there are adults who will listen, believe them, and help them. 

It is my firm belief that that child will grow up knowing it's okay to talk about the hard things and they will do that more often than those who kept it in. You can see this in society. Anyone over, let's say, thirty-five forty plus, I'm ballparking here. They have lived this. We have lived this. You didn't talk about your feelings and so it manifests into these attachment disorders, mental health declines, suicide rates that grow, alcoholism, addiction. Why does this happen? I think there's a correlation between shame and not being authentic to who you are. Believe me, being authentic to who you are, there's no better feeling. You go about life without deep shame, you can do anything. But if you tell someone you can't be you, I believe that creates a massive ego which creates evil, quote unquote. Someone had to have something happen to them that caused them shame. And I'm not talking about Adam and Eve, but someone started a chain in the bloodline for the creation of evil. And I say evil because everyone else does. It's really just negative energy frequency. 

Remember, quantum physics is religion is spirituality. They are all the same. We just name them differently. 

So that dirty little secret that your family kept generation to generation and they kept perpetuating this behavior is About your great-great-great-great-grandpa who did despicable things. It stays hidden and there's no accountability. Because, of course, no one in that particular family talked about what happened either. It becomes embedded in the bloodline via epigenetics, becomes part of the family lore, even the behavior gets passed down, but we also, we also have soul families, non-blood soul families. These are also the generational curses that are getting broke right now, which is why it's so painful. Why we're seeing so much chaotic energy. Shame is what forms that negative voice in your head. And if that negative voice takes over, it forms into quote unquote evil dictators. Who've been living in shame. Who've been living in guilt. Who've been living in their own head with these negative voices that say they're better than everyone else. That say that hurting someone else somehow helps them. 

We can beat this. We are. Because the antidote to this quote-unquote evil is to hold them accountable, to speak up and be your authentic self and say, this is wrong. And you're seeing it. Tell the emperor he has no clothes, right? It's beautiful. We're seeing it right now in America. We're seeing it right now around the world. This will shift us into a new consciousness and it all could have been prevented if one little secret hadn't been kept. Whatever that was that created this shame that was passed down, which created evil, which created basically all this energy. And I say that like time is linear. It's not. 

There's no statute of limitations on any of this, by the way. If you were a parent or a child who has been keeping a dirty little secret in the background, That's causing you pain or shame. If you have not spoken about it, if you haven't transmuted that energy, it will cause pain in your body. It will cause pain in your mind, your brain, and your energy field. And it will cause you to put a mask on, go about your day, and you may not really look behind other people's masks. But also not your own. You need to look. 

They don't call it shadow work for nothing. These are shadows that we're fighting. That you fight. And then you integrate them. That's the beauty of shadow work. You go looking for something, thinking that you're going to get rid of it. And instead, you accept it and you take it in and you say, my shadow was a part of me. My shadow is a part of me. And here I am, here I am world, me and my shadows, we are one. Light doesn't mean there's no dark. Okay? Shadows belong with light. It'll never be gone. If you haven't had this validation, if you haven't had a conversation that you need to, maybe there's a separation of the physical realm. Someone has passed. Have it anyway. Because whoever it is can hear you. And you will heal them at the same time. And you want to ask yourself if you want to bring this baggage and carry it for the rest of your life, but also into the next life. In the darkest times, we find the light. 

Until next time, peace and love to you all.